Wednesday, 19 December 2007

Yikes! He wants a relationship!

I had a little affair with a pilot last weekend. Nothing I took very seriously, casual, nothing special, sex of the disposable type. The French would call it "three minutes, with shower", except it lasted a bit longer than that. It wasn't bad but it wasn't super either.

We exchanged numbers, and I went on my way for a party up north, feeling all haggered and a little dirty. Usually, that would be it and in this case, that was fine with me.

But now he calls, sort of out of the blue. He's back in town. And not only does he want to hang out, he wants to be my boyfriend.

He's nervous, and I think I took it well, but I recoil at the thought. He ticks most of the right boxes: age, employment, looks, but I still don't think there's anything there. Or is just my nature, chickening out when things get serious? I never had that before, so I don't think so.

Looking back, he said a couple of things that should have been a little alarming. He had only been with four boys before, something I laughed off, but now think could well be true. And he had mentioned the word "relationship" before. To which I remained silent.

How do I get him off my back without being rude? I don't want to hurt his feelings, but don't feel like seeing him again.


Anonymous said...

you answered your own question :)

just be nice and tell him the truth. you cannot do anything else and you'll handle it right from what ive read so far.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

If there is no spark between you guys then it is what it is, not your fault and he sounds a little too needy, too quickly!

I know how hard it can be when a good looking guy with a great job wants to start a relationship and... oh no wait a minute, I never have that happen to me, Pete I really really hate you right now! ;-P

Just joking buddy

W said...

Honesty is the best policy. Tacky but true. Also, aren't you kinda flattered?

B said...

Agree with W...honesty rules.